Need some advice for a 3-year-old

To keep her Pressing the right keys in guess key game use a bucket and balls. Each time she gets a correct note put a ball in the bucket. Stop the game after 2 minutes ( or less if that is too long) count out the balls. Then ask her to see if she can beat that many balls next time.
You could tell her that spiders don't eat fruit and that he is being very greedy taking fruit he won't even eat too
For hot cross buns cut the song ( instruction are on here somewhere...) so she is only playing half of it. At three you need to be quite patient at the beginning. Progress will come, you will be quite surprised by it over time. Take some videos so you can look back next month when you are disheartened and see the progress she has made.
Read my sons first month or two in the progress diaries and see what I mean!!! Jaykob first month with soft Mozart. I will post the link later if you don't find it using a search.