Teach fingering to toddler

Did you read this material? www.softmozart.com/forum/20-hellene-hine...rite-a-new-book.html
I have a section there dedicated to the fingering and gradual process of introducing them based on the figures of the performance.

Hello, telu!
Let me try to help you!
You wrote:

telu wrote: One step forward and two steps back for me at the moment... My daughter was playing Hot Cross Buns, French Song and Ode to Joy very well with her index finger when I wanted her to start playing with at least three.

Out motto is GENTLE teaching. Let's switch ourselves from the mode I wanted her to start playing with at least three.
to the 'I wanted to motivate her to start with at least three.

How can we motivate? Let's try to cut this elephant in smaller pieces. Can you cut just 2 bars of 'Hot Cross Buns'? Do you know, how to cut a small segments of the piano pieces? There will be just Mi Re Do for her right hand. Place 3 butterflies - flags - whatever music currency you have - 3 of them.
Offer: let's play the game: you play MI with the 3rd, RE with the index and DO with the thumb. You get 1 piece for each right finger. 3 pieces is yours? You won. Let's go!

Then, however, she refused to let us hold her little fingers and show her how to play correctly, and she is still strongly refusing this, so I have no idea what to do.

With active learning children do not want to be hold or patronize. The key is the organic growth. Just give her a smaller task. It seems to me like she is developing from her fingers' awareness to the stage of controlling each finger. Cutting music in smaller segments is the very good way to go. Another way is to use different games.

You can ask to deep the child's hand into play-dough. There will be 5 holes for each finger, Place a tiny pictures of Door, Rain, Mirror next to each hole and ask to lift 'finger Do or finger Mi. This way your child will learn how to control fingers by name, for example.

She starts yelling hysterically and jumps off the chair if we try this, and she is not interested in watching us play correctly with all fingers either.

Of cause! She want to learn organically! You can be proud: she is a strong person. Our goal is to give her tools, how to and she will figure everything out!

I really don't understand how people manage to have two and three year olds play the piano since toddlers of this age are not only obstinate but also in the "Do myself!"-stage of development. Is there any magic formula? Or just genetics?

You will learn it too! Did you have a chance to listen to the webinar? pianolearningsoftware.com/pages/webinar_1

What is much worse, ironically, is that she actually seems to listen to me and my wife when we tell her to play with more than one finger, but then she tends to mess everything up, playing with all fingers randomly and even with both hands on treble staff if we press the "R" button in Gentle Piano.

Did you try these tricks to avoid visual over stimulation? www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.442489...2883088098340&type=3
You may cover another half of the screen, cut the piece to a tiny segment and watch. Reward, when she got it. But don't be all over her, don't touch her hands and don't correct her as she trying to do something.

I saw this video that someone had published on the forum:

. Is it possible to download those hands from somewhere or do you have to make them yourself?

Get brown and green construction paper, trace HER hands. It will be FUN for all of you, It will be HER hands.

Some extra help would also be appreciated, because I really don't know what to do any longer. We try to use Soft Mozart with her every day, but this doesn't seem do help. And bribes/rewards...yes, they are plentiful!

Please, listen to the webinar about rewards. Quantity is not the key with this trick.

Thank you very much for sharing the problems with us! I know, how hard it is to teach your own child. But you are going to have so much fun and so healthy and rewarding relationship in future if you will understand what GENTLE teaching is all about, I am here to help you in any way I can.